Saturday, April 24, 2010

A Wedding To Start A War



How the wedlock between a Pakistani sportsman and an Indian tennis player is a PR disaster for India and holds implications for relations with Pakistan

A sign of Pakistan-India peace? Hardly. Read how the celebrity wedding was loaded with the kind of symbolism that rattled India and sent the wrong signals to Pakistan

By Ahmed Quraishi
Thursday, 22 April 2010.

ISLAMABAD, Pakistan—Trust me, this is a wedding that India never wants to see again. Ever. 

Never before has a wedding tested India's relations with Pakistan and created new misunderstandings that will echo for a long time to come. [Yes, we're still talking geopolitics.]

American and British commentators piled over each other to welcome the wedding between Pakistan's ace cricketer Shoaib Malik and India's star tennis player Sania Mirza as an event that would bring Pakistan and India closer.

  Hindu extremists burning Sania Mirza's effigy for marrying a Pakistani celebrity

Instead, it exposed ugly Indian insecurities, especially the rampant anti-Pakistanism in India not just in New Delhi but also among ordinary Indians. This is in sharp contrast to the warmth shown to Indians at all times in Pakistan, regardless of tense official relations.  

While most Pakistanis innocently celebrated the wedding as a chance for peace, Indians wore long faces, like a parent angry at a daughter who's ran away to marry the wrong man. Forget peace, Indians fretted that Mirza, a Muslim, might ditch India and start representing her husband's country Pakistan at international tournaments.

Indians, both in and out of government, did everything they could from day one to scuttle the wedding. When nothing worked they unleashed saffron-clad Hindu extremists to scare Sania Mirza and her parents for 'betraying' India. When that failed, New Delhi confiscated the Pakistani sportsman's passport on a lousy excuse while the Indian media went digging up dirt on the Pakistani young man to dissuade Mirza's family from going ahead with the wedding.   
Did Sania really ditch India?
The irony is that India's few noisy bottom feeders in Pakistan staked their reputations on this wedding; almost convincing Pakistanis that the wedding was a sign India was dying to be friends with their country. They never dreamed that India would instead be dying of jealousy and petty antagonism. 

SCARY SYMBOLISM FOR INDIA

What everyone missed was that the wedding was loaded with symbolism of the type that rattles India's nerves.

First, the Pakistani sportsman married a fellow Muslim. That undercut Indian government’s claim that Indian Muslims are not attracted to everything Pakistani, and vice versa.  Indian officials watch such happenings closely. Had the Pakistani married an Indian Hindu, Indian media managers would have seized the wedding to bolster their favorite line of propaganda about how Pakistan is a lost part of India that needs to atone for its sins and come home  [This is one of many historical delusions that Indians relish and which continue to inform official Indian mindset toward Pakistan, ignoring that India itself never existed before the Brits created it in 1947 out of what used to be a Muslim empire, but that's another story]. 

Then there's the symbolism of Sania Mirza's hometown Hyderabad-Deccan. The city-state was one of the richest Muslim princely states for centuries, ruled by Turkic-Persian Muslim elite whose descendants include people such as the Mirzas. The rich state almost joined Pakistan in 1947 when India invaded and forcibly annexed it. Pakistan was too weak then to contest the occupation. Now imagine the irony: a celebrity girl emerging seventy years later from that city to marry a Pakistani?  This is not good for Indian ego.

Interestingly, many Muslim natives of the city are Pakistani citizens who live in Pakistan. Local weddings involving a bride or a groom from Pakistan are common. And this freaks out Indian authorities.   

The third symbolism that rattles India is that Muslim natives of Sania Mirza's city face religious discrimination despite India's claim to secularism. Just a few weeks before the wedding, India's majority Hindus waged pitched battles in the streets and alleys against the city's Muslim nativesA high-profile wedding that links these Indian Muslims to Pakistan is bad influence considering the timing.

Even worse as far as timings go, on the eve of Sania's wedding with Pakistan's star, an American-Indian Muslim group slammed Indian authorities for trying to protect Hindu extremist groups during the probe into the riots.

PAKISTANI PERSPECTIVE

But these are Indian insecurities from an Indian perspective. What Pakistanis saw from their side was confirmation of India's record of being hostile to Pakistanis despite lip service to peace.

Indian visitors have never been humiliated in Pakistan in the past 63 years. Not a single incident can be cited. In contrast, a Pakistani delegation that returned from India as recently as December 2009 spoke of mistreatment. One visitor said, "They treated us like dogs. Do we treat them like this when they come here?"

In fact, thousands of Indian pilgrims visit their holy sites in Pakistan each year. Year in and year out, they are received as heroes by Pakistani authorities in an effort to send them back as ambassadors of Pakistan in India. And this has been going on for at least the past two decades.

In return, Indian small-mindedness seems to know no bounds.

In 2006, when both Pakistan and India launched a friendship train called Samjota to help citizens visit both countries, 59 Pakistanis were burned alive when the train was returning from the Indian capital to Pakistan. It turned out that Indian military intelligence officers connived with Hindu terror groups to sabotage the train. The unlucky Pakistanis believed Indian media’s – and their own Pakistani media’s – hype about peace and traveled to India never to return alive.

Deep inside, Indians are vindictive when it comes to Pakistan. Indians have been given a steady dose of anti-Pakistanism over the past 63 years and told in as many words that Pakistan is an illegal construct, somehow ‘stolen’ from India. And justice must be done. I leave it to your imagination what that justice would look like if India has its way with Pakistan.

One Indian politician went as far as accusing Mirza of betraying her country because she married a Pakistani. The poor girl and her family were so terrified she finally had to release a statement insisting she married the man and not his country.

Facing this Indian meanness, Pakistan could have made small gestures to make its displeasure known but didn’t, mostly out of incompetence since Pakistani governments are not media savvy anyway.

Pakistan could have scored a point by issuing a statement on the anti-Muslim riots in Hyderabad-Deccan as a way of getting back at India for the way they treated Pakistani sportsman Malik. But Pakistan didn’t.  What’s even more startling is that the Pakistani federal minister who was ordered by Prime Minister Gilani to travel to India to attend the famous wedding refused to meet with the aggrieved local Muslims of the city in order not to embarrass the host government.

All in all, India wasted a great chance to win the Pakistani public opinion. As for Pakistanis, the whole episode confirms what we already know about the Indian intolerance and unease when dealing with anything that has to do with Pakistan. Hopefully, this analysis will also help our friends in the world understand the psychology behind Indian intransigence in resolving problems and making peace with Pakistan.
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6 comments:

  1. No comments from Indian visitors? Is this a "biased" comment as well, gentlemen? Do say something!

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  2. Like always Mr. AQ likes to swim against the tide. With ZH gone under-ground the responsibility to continue the job of hate-monger Inc. has fallen on the shoulders of AQ. Rather than addressing the aggressive sentiment in the nation through his writings, he always tries to ignite it. I believe he can do a lot better if he invests his energies in the opposite direction.

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  3. AQ's jokes do not even have the desired effect on fellow Pakistanis. His side-kick Sakib may enjoy AQ's non-stop nonsense. But saner Pakistanis like Mansoor are not the least tickled by his comments. Mansoor should realise that AQ is the India-hater who likes to call the whole of India and Indians as Pakistan-haters. Instead of writing such nonsense, AQ can write novels which will cater to the likes of Sakib & Co. Or better still Pak version of Rugby jokes. AQ! Go for the "delete comments" button, man.

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  4. Firstly, it is utterly idiotic to link the high-profile (controversial) wedding to the so-called annexation of Hyderabad. Then AQ apart from the normal exaggeration he uses has gone one step further to state that "Just a few weeks before the wedding, India's majority Hindus waged pitched battles in the streets and alleys against the city's Muslim natives." Sania is a Muslim, so are Shoiab and his first wife Ayesha. How are Hindus concerned? Another instance of AQ's anti-India and Hindu outburst. Except his blog, no where do you find reports of rioting.

    Most important point which Pakis must note is that Sania's condition for marrying Shoiab is that both will reside in DUBAI not LAHORE. So Sania may be in love with Mr. Malik, not Pak as is portrayed by AQ and his team.

    Sania's wedding controversy was primarily due to the fact that Rt. Hon. Mr. Malik denied his marriage to Ayesha and hence the law stepped in. He not only admitted to the relationship, which came as a slap for the Paki PM Gilani & Co, but in true "Islamic style" gave her a divorce. The rest of the contents of the blog contains bullshit as usual.

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  5. You may also want to see Teeth Maestro Blog and Spring of Autumn (ReeBz on Republic of Rumi blogspot community! with the comments?)

    I look forward to coming back for a closer look...

    How might we provide balance and wisdom as writers in this situation?

    The whole ludicrous nature of such celebrity relationships getting undue attention is a problem even greater when we remember times in history when such did lead to conflict on a large scale...

    Funny in a dark way that larger than life people can be such a spark for real wars???

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  6. Wonderful piece of writing..Loved it all.Best of all the things I read about this couple on net.Keep it up.!

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